To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife? 1 Corinthians 7:12-16
4 Assumptions regarding the role of family:
1. The family is the primary evangelistic agent for the world
These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Deuteronomy 6:6-7
2. The family’s role is to develop character more than competence
Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled. In everything set them an example by doing what is good. In your teaching show integrity, seriousness and soundness of speech... Titus 2:4-8
3. More than anything, I want my children in heaven with me
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
4. It is the family and not the church that is primarily responsible to transmit faith to the next generation.
But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.” Joshua 24:15b
The role of children:
To _______________ and _____________________
a. Prize __________________
“Or suppose a woman has ten silver coins and loses one. Doesn’t she light a lamp, sweep the house and search carefully until she finds it? Luke 15:8
b. _____________ for them
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. 1 Timothy 5:8
c. Show ________________
“‘Each of you must respect your mother and father, and you must observe my Sabbaths. I am the Lord your God. Leviticus 19:3
They shall say to the elders, “This son of ours is stubborn and rebellious. He will not obey us. He is a glutton and a drunkard.” Then all the men of his town are to stone him to death. You must purge the evil from among you. Deuteronomy 21:20-21
The average church has __________________ per year for faith development of the average person.
How do I lead my family/children spiritually?
(from Reggie Joiner – Think Orange)
1. Focus on the __________________
Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Deut. 6:4
What is the most important thing I want for my family and for my children?
It really doesn’t matter what our children know if they don’t know what really matters…When it comes to the battle for the heart, what is temporary has a way of crowding out what is eternal. Joiner, p. 54
2. Fight for their _____________
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. Deut. 6:5
A change in behavior that does not stem from a change in heart is not commendable; it is condemnable…You need to direct not simply the behavior of your children, but the attitudes of their hearts…Your children desperately need to understand not only the external “what” they did wrong but also the internal “why” they did it. Tedd Tripp, quoted in Family Shepherds, p. 118-9
Fathers do not exasperate your children…Ephesians 6:4
3. Make your faith _____________________
These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Deut. 6:6
4. Create spiritual ___________________ in your life
Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deut. 6:7-9
Mealtime (sit at home) – core principles/focused discussion
Traveling (walk along the road) – informal dialogue
Bedtime (lie down) – find the heart of your child in the day
Don’t send them…____________ them
Morning (get up) – give them purpose/task for the day
5. ________________ the circle
Hear, O Israel…Deut 6:4a
Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments. Deut 7:9
Your greatest power as a parent, and as an adult, is the power to influence the faith of the next generation.
Change a child – change a generation – change the world!